In today’s world, the sacred covenant of marriage is facing numerous pressures, with divorce becoming more common as couples struggle to navigate its challenges. But as Christians, we are called to view marriage through the lens of God’s Word, understanding that it is not simply a legal agreement but a divine covenant designed by God to reflect His love and commitment to us.
The Bible speaks profoundly about the sanctity of marriage, with Jesus Himself emphasizing its significance. In Matthew 19:6, He said, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” This verse reminds us that marriage is not just a union of two people but a binding commitment before God. It is a relationship meant to be nurtured, even through hardship, reflecting God’s steadfast love and faithfulness.
As a church, we cannot overlook the reality that some marriages face severe issues—abuse, abandonment, unfaithfulness—and in such cases, Scripture does provide grounds for separation. Yet, in many cases, couples experience struggles that, while painful, can be resolved through forgiveness, patience, and mutual effort. Our society often suggests that happiness is the ultimate goal in marriage, leading people to believe that when happiness fades, so should the commitment. But Ephesians 5:25 teaches us that marriage calls for sacrificial love: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Marriage was designed to be a union where both partners grow together, refine each other, and endure in faith. The notion that marriage is always a “happily ever after” can mislead many into thinking that love and commitment should come effortlessly. In reality, a godly marriage requires work, humility, and a heart open to God’s guidance. When Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 that “love is patient, love is kind…it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres,” he was describing the kind of love that God expects us to cultivate within marriage.
But how do we handle marriage when economic hardships, family pressures, or personal differences strain our commitment? First, we need to recognize that God is a provider and sustainer of marriage. By placing our trust in Him, we invite His guidance, wisdom, and grace into our relationships. Philippians 4:19 reminds us, “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” In times of need, we are called to pray together, seek God’s wisdom, and find strength in His promises.
Forgiveness is also at the heart of a healthy marriage. Jesus taught in Matthew 18:21-22 that we should forgive “not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” While this is a difficult command, it’s essential to remember that forgiveness is what strengthens and heals broken bonds. It allows us to rebuild trust and continue moving forward together in faith.
I encourage all couples, whether newlyweds or those who have been together for decades, to seek God’s help in building a marriage that reflects His love. Attend church together, study His Word, and join with other believers who can support you in times of difficulty. Remember, marriage is a testimony of God’s faithfulness, patience, and unending grace, and by nurturing it, we honor Him.
Our society may grow more accepting of divorce, but as Christians, let us uphold the covenant of marriage with reverence and prayer. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” When God is woven into the fabric of our marriage, He becomes the strength that holds it together through every trial.
